It is perfectly cool to sometimes reconsider some ancient, selfish ways and show some willingness to meet your partner halfway.
It's a perfect way to show that you are ready to pitch in with effort on your part, in order for the relationship to blossom, for things to rhyme perfectly. But there's a limit to how far you can go with this.
There are some features you cannot overlook in a relationship, some grounds you should not shift, and some compromises you really don't have to make. In this article, I wrote about 5 things you should never attempt to do because of a relationship. They're listed as follows:
1. Boundaries:
There are boundaries that need to be laid down in every relationship. What you'll accept and what you won't. Some boundaries are not encroachable, personal, positive values you hold firmly and should not let go of. You absolutely have to express this before the dating relationship begins, or before you go too far into it and experience a lot of conflicts.
Knowing, understanding and respecting these set boundaries helps the relationship to run smoothly; helps you to avoid problems and makes you both look like a perfect match made in heaven.
And most importantly, it makes you maintain your identity. You won't have to feel like you invested too much of yourself just to make the man or woman stay, or to make the relationship work out.
2. Your self-respect:
It is almost impossible for a relationship to last long or be happy when one partner does not seem to understand how respect works, or shows an unwillingness to live by it.
If you are with someone who displays regular features of disrespect, don’t attempt to make excuses for them. It's probably just going to get more worse. Do not live with constant, intentional and deliberate disrespect for the sake of a relationship. Because, really, is it even a relationship, in the first place, if it lacks shared respect?
Never compromise about disrespectful treatments from a dating partner just to make things last longer.
3. Great friendships:
Don't abandon great friendships because of a relationship and attempt to call it compromise.
The healthy, great and productive friends you've had before, should be kept and maintained. They have their space and roles in your life and your partner has to get used to them..
If you're with a partner who tries to block all the real friendships you have, it is a red flag that you shouldn’t ignore or compromise.
4. Dreams:
Your long-term dreams, ambitions and aspirations are valid and deserve to be achieved. Don't give on up for the sake of a relationship, please.
If you ever have to choose either your dreams or a relationship's sake, please choose the previous.
5. Your family:
Nothing, I mean nothing should ever make you want to give that up. No one should make you give up your family. Don't compromise on this aspect too. It's very crucial. They say, "blood is thicker than water."
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